Prayer, please.

Subscribers, this has been a last few trying weeks. Shew, it’s been challenging. I write to you all now just asking for prayer which is something I rarely do in regards to myself. You are probably wondering what’s going on, and to be honest, nothing really major. Just normal, every day things. For some reason though, I’ve been letting things get to me more than I should and I am trying to just let go and let God. Sometimes that doesn’t come easy for me.

For starters, my daughter who has been an honor roll student each report card is struggling this quarter in school. She isn’t the only one struggling, a lot of the class is, but I am that mom who wants her to be challenged but not struggle. It isn’t that she isn’t smart enough, she’s proved herself to be above where she should be based on age alone over and over. However, she’s just gotten into a slump where she doesn’t seem motivated this quarter and it’s the small things like following directions entirely on a problem, reading the questions thoroughly, being responsible and remembering to bring home books when you have something to study for, writing out problems instead of just the answer, you know, the stuff that should come easily. I am trying to remember though, fourth grade is tough. Kindergarten through third, their hands are held, they are babied to a sense, and then fourth grade, it’s time to prepare them for that ribbon to be cut. Once fifth grade comes around, there aren’t the study guides, there aren’t detailed instructions to take home a book. The student has a big responsibility that fourth grade teachers are trying to shape them for. My little girl, doesn’t quite know how to handle all of that responsibility yet and in a sense, doesn’t want to.

I am in no hurry for her to grow up but man, this is a tough school year. Next year she gets to try out for JV Cheerleading which she has been looking forward to since she started the Spirit Squad. She is well aware that if her grades don’t come up and remain good like they have all this time, JV Cheerleading won’t be an option. Just pray for us, y’all. It’s stressful on the teachers, on the students, and on the families at home.

Outside of this school quarter, my focus and determination to really get my life back on track in regards to health and fitness has been somewhat of a downward spiral. I am not sure if it’s just all the added stress and pressure, well yeah I am sure, that’s what it is. My mind has not been mentally focused where it should be and instead I’ve been letting the negative, stress, and anxiousness take over which has led to some unwanted weight gain that I once had lost. I will get there again. I have a friend who will be my Advocare challenge buddy, and another friend who will be training for a 5K run with me. I haven’t ran in years and I so miss the body, the feeling, and the confidence that I had when I did. I look forward to getting there again. Just pray for me. Pray for my sanity, patience, guidance, direction, focus, mentality, confidence, motivation, and peace.

I am thankful for you all, you’re an outlet of sorts. Someone who I can type all of my thoughts (the good, the bad, and the ugly) to. I would love some feedback though, I don’t hear from most of you and would really like to know I’m not the only one out there facing this struggles.

Let’s chat, soon! Xo.
Hollie

Difficult Season

As I sit here typing this, my eyes are welled up with tears just ready to drop at one blink of my eyes. My breathing is heavy and my heart is heavier. When you hear people say that parenting is one of the most difficult jobs in the world, boy are they right. We’ve had our share of hard parenting times but they are always outweighed with the good times. Sometimes though, I feel we take 1 steps forward and then 2 steps backwards. What I’m going to write about today has been this way since about Kindergarten (and now we are half way through fourth grade). We’ve tried many different solutions, some help better than others, and some don’t help at all. This is me just venting and hopefully letting you know that if you are going through this same season, you aren’t alone.

My daughter has always been funny about clothing since she could carry on a conversation. Something is either too tight, too itchy, too scratchy, you name it. When she was an infant to toddler years we didn’t run into any clothing issues. She wore everything without a fuss. Then we got to the years where my grandmother would keep her and my grandmother being old fashioned wasn’t a fan of jeans. It never failed, if jeans were on her, they would wind up dirty and she would be in different clothes by the time I picked her up. It became a joke. Ever since Kindergarten, she has completely been against jeans or anything jean material. It was (and still is) a preference of leggings, sweats, yoga pants, dresses, and skirts. You can imagine our excitement when the “jeggings” came out!

Here we are now in the middle of her fourth grade year. All is well when the outfit of the day has been picked out by her but the minute the outfit has to be changed into something that she doesn’t like then it is full out war. Let me explain today in minor detail. She wanted to wear a brown suede skirt with a black velvet long sleeve shirt. She put this outfit on and I’m being honest, it was horrid. I know I shouldn’t worry too much about her outfit but at the same time, I do not want others to form negative opinions based on a poorly put together outfit. I wish now I would’ve snapped a picture just so you could see what I mean because words couldn’t do it justice. I didn’t though, so here I am trying to make sense of it all to you. Long story short, she was behind on time. I put together an outfit that included a long sleeved pink shirt and some fake jeans. They aren’t quite leggings but they aren’t jeans, I don’t even know the proper term for them. Well, she literally pitched a fit. Her and I got into a yelling/mean word match (I know, I know, parenting fail on my part) and it just escalated. By the time it was time to leave for school, her face was splotchy red with crocodile tears running down her cheek and she’s trying to apologize. As I close the door, I almost fall to the floor. Crying out in disappointment, aggravation, sadness, madness, and just feeling like I am a complete fail as a parent.

That’s how it goes every time. We’ll have our moment of fussing, crying, getting mad, saying mean and hurtful things, and then apologizing. Why am I even sitting here writing about this? No other reason except to let all of you parents out there relate. If you have gone through or are going through similar scenarios then I want you to know, you are not alone.

Some things that have helped us avoid mornings like this:

  • Planning outfits the night before (although we haven’t made this a regular thing but might need to)
  • Allowing her to dress herself no matter what the outfit looks like and if it’s clean (she will gladly wear a dirty pair of pants that she loves over a clean pair of pants that she dislikes)
  • Giving her choices (even if it’s something she doesn’t like, if she has a choice then she still handles it better than no choice at all)

I realize that some people might say this stuff is petty and we make a big deal out of nothing and I agree, you have to choose your battles. At the same time, this is our battle. We thankfully don’t have other battles that some parents go through. I also am coming to the realization that no matter how much I love my daughter, she is becoming if she isn’t already, a spoiled brat. Not one of those spoiled brats that people can’t stand to be around, she has a heart of gold and such a sweet spirit. Just the spoiled brat way that we have literally tried to give her the whole world and the minute that something doesn’t go her way (always about clothes in her case) then we wind up having one of these moments. I keep believing that this is a season and one day we won’t be facing this hardship. I sure hope.

However, through it all I love her no different. She is still my little girl. I want absolutely nothing but the best for her which is why it is so hard sometimes. Tough lesson in growing up and parenting as well. It’s a process. If you have any similar scenarios then I would love for you to share them to know that hey, we aren’t alone as well. Us parents need to rally together in moments like this instead of pointing fingers and belittling each other based on our different experiences and battles. Parenting isn’t always sunshine and roses but it’s such a blessing and I am so incredibly thankful God has called me to be her parent, even through the storms.

Let’s build each other help!

Elf Update: Day 9

Elfie returned yesterday with a special note for my girl and a hunkering for some hot cocoa. Silly ole elf. My daughter was excited to see that he came back and she has laid all of his clothes from his suitcase out so that he knows exactly where they are for his next adventure.

  
  

I’m a Distributor!

So many exciting things have occurred in just the last few months. One new journey I’ve committed to is being a distributor for Young Living Essential Oils. For awhile now I have been looking into essential oils and pinning things pertaining to them on Pinterest. I even was in conversation with a doTERRA representative but until recently, I was just interested and not involved.

I attended a class a few weeks ago and absolutely fell in love with the idea of using all natural oils to assist in everyday living. There is so much more to essential oils than I ever imagined and I have so much to learn. At this class I was introduced to the Young Living everyday oils, ways to use them, the benefits of essential oils and the impact it can have on my life, and heard testimonials from other users. The reason I chose Young Living over other essential oil products is because of their seed to seal guarantee. You see, Young Living has their very own farms in not only the United States but in France, Ecuador, and Oman as well. Their five step process is the very reason why I chose to get involved with this company and I am so excited about this journey. You can read more about their seed to seal process here: http://www.seedtoseal.com/en/seedtoseal

There are so many benefits to essential oils and I won’t take up this time to go through those, I’ll post more about Young Living in the future. I just wanted you to share in the excitement that my package finally arrived and my journey has officially started as a Young Living Essential Oils user. I’d love to hear your experience if you have used or currently use essential oils.

Happy diffusing, xo!

What’s Going On?

It’s so hard sometimes trying to keep up with the many events/festivals/carnivals that take place this time of year. I have looked through a few lists and picked out some that I felt would peek the interest of my readers, you! So, here is my list of family friendly events happening around our neck of the woods.
Note: This will not be a full complete list of all the events but just a handful.

-SATURDAY 10/25-
Lewisville Library Halloween Party: Lewisville, N.C.
10:30am-11:30am. Learn some tricks for your treats and act out some spooky fun. Kids of all ages welcome and costumes encouraged.
Boo at the Zoo: North Carolina Zoo
Trick or treat games, magic, story telling, and more! More information on this event can be found on their website: http://www.nczoo.org
Pumpkin Patch Palooza: Maple Springs United Methodist Church
From 4:00pm-6:00pm free admission and parking. Donations of canned goods accepted. Free food, live music, inflatables, trunk or treating, prizes, and more. Check out their website for more information: http://maplesprings.org/news–events/pumpkin-patch
31st Annual Barbecue Festival: Lexington, N.C.
Free admission 8:30am-6:00pm. A few of the scheduled entertainment include 2014 American Idol winner Caleb Johnson and RaeLynn. Games, barbecue galore, rides for the kids, and more!
Trick or Treat Event: SciWorks
From 2pm-4pm with museum admission, your costumed kids can collect goodies throughout the museum. For more information on this event, visit their webpage: http://www.sciworks.org. Other Halloween events at this location listed as well.
Halloween Pumpkin Carving: Old Salem, Salem Square
From 10:00am-4:00pm you can carve a pumpkin to be placed around the Salem Square fence and be judged in a pumpkin contest on Sunday. Your pumpkin can be taken home Sunday after 7:30pm. There is no cost for this event but you must supply your own carving tools as Old Salem will be providing the pumpkins. Find more information on their website: http://www.oldsalem.org/halloween-pumpkin-carving

-SUNDAY 10/26-
Truck or Treat: Children’s Museum of Winston Salem
$5 for members and nonmembers. Live music, trick or treating with more than 25 vehicles, fun activities, crafts, and more. Costumes encouraged. For more information on this event visit their webpage: http://childrensmuseumofws.org
Masquerade on Trade: Arts District, Trade Street Winston Salem, N.C.
Costume contest for adults, teens, kids, and pets from 1-5pm as part of the “Arts on Sundays” series. Visit http://www.theafasgroup.com for more information.
Trick or Treat Night: Old Salem
Trick or treat between Main Street and Salem Square from 6:00pm-7:30pm. No ticket required. More information can be found on their website: http://www.oldsalem.org/trick-or-treat-in-old-salem.html

-HALLOWEEN DAY/NIGHT 10/31-
“Not So Spooky Family-O-Ween Spectacular!: Marketplace Cinemas
See Hotel Transylvania (Rated PG) for free at 10:00am and bring a camera to capture a snapshot with BigFoot.
Festival 31: Calvary Baptist Church Winston Salem, N.C.
First ever event with free admission from 6-8pm. Enjoy food, trick or treating, and games. Costumes welcome. For more information on this new event, visit their website at: http://www.calvarynow.com/festival31
Fall Festival & Trunk or Treat: Reynolda Church, Winston Salem N.C.
From 5:30pm-8:00pm enjoy this family friendly event with free hayrides, marshmallow roasting, food, and trunk or treating.
20th Annual Downtown Trick or Treat: Main Street Kernersville, N.C.
From 6-8pm enjoy games, trick or treating, and more. For more information visit: http://toknc.com/events/eventdetails.aspx?eid=7GmV3rFMovA=
Fall Festival: The Village at Robinhood Shopping Center (off Meadowlark and Robinhood Road)
Free event from 2pm-6pm including live music, inflatables, face painting, trick or treating, and funnel cakes.
Fall Festival: Miller Park Winston Salem, N.C.
From 6:00pm-8:00pm enjoy games, prizes and candy with a canned food donation for admission.

-MULTIPLE DATES-
Field of Fears: BB&T Ballpark
This is the first year for this fun, family friendly event. Features a “Face Your Fears Walk”, Dash inflatables, hayrides, spiderweb maze and the opportunity to build scarecrows and paint pumpkins. Admission is $11 in advance, $14 the day of, and children 2 and under are free. More information on this event can be found on their website: http://www.milb.com/index.jsp?sid=t580
Kersey Valley Spookywoods: Archdale, N.C.
Voted #1 Scream Park in America by Haunt World Magazine, this haunted attraction has lots to offer and I would definitely say is more geared toward the older kids and adults rather than the wee little ones. More information regarding opening times and dates other than Saturday can be found on their website: http://spookywoods.com/index.htm
Pumpkin Pick Hayrides: Tanglewood Park
Available during the month of October, reservations made by calling the stables at (336) 766-9450. Admission is $9 per person or you can rent the entire wagon for $200. More information found on their website: http://www.forsyth.cc/parks/tanglewood/?StoryID=19667
Tweetsie Railroad’s Annual Ghost Train Halloween Festival: Blowing Rock, N.C.
Admission is $31 per person, children 2 and under are free. Admission includes the haunted attractions including the ghost train, trick or treating, haunted house, and more. Visit their website for more information: http://tweetsie.com/special-events/2013-ghost-train-faqs/
Family Friendly Halloween Fun at Carowinds: Charlotte, N.C.
This daytime Halloween themed fun includes The Great Pumpkin Fest (available during Saturday and Sundays in October) and all the loved attractions in the famous Planet Snoopy area. More information on this event can be found on their website: https://www.carowinds.com/daytime/things-to-do

There ya have it folks, a decent list of events going on around the area. Hope you can find something for you and your family to enjoy this fall season.
Happy Fall, y’all!